How do I help my little boy, who is not so little any more, but seems to be in such pain.
I don't know how much of it is having his parents separate just before his 12th birthday, and how much of it is just being 12.
There's not much good I can remember about being 12, starting high school, feeling lost and frightened, drowning.
But I don't know the feeling of having my parents separate.
My counsellor says his behaviour sounds like he's just being 12; pushing boundaries, asserting his independence, seeking to establish his place in the family and the world.
But sometimes, I worry it is more.
I love him to bits and I try to show it, and much of the time we have a lovely relationship.
But when the switch is flicked, he feels alone, deserted, lonely, desolate.
And he strikes out. And says things I know he doesn't mean. And that he will regret later.
There have to be rules, teeth have to be brushed, surely. Even at such times?
I want just to flick a switch and have my happy little boy back.
I know he's hiding in there, just maybe afraid to come out?
Yes it's me again. And duh it's one in the morning and am still awake. But darn it all I'm on holidays. Unfortunately it will take sometime for your family to adjust. Remember your little boy has had twelve years of being a member of a family of four. Give him time treat him as you have treated him before don't let up on the discipline etc. he's a smart cookie and he'll be ok he's got you for a mum hasn't he?
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Oh Nats, you are lovely. Yes I will keep on the road Im on, but its difficult. But Im not telling you anything you dont know.
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